My mom is traveling the world while my son and I are drowning in debt – isn’t she supposed to help us? I was shocked by her response

My mom is traveling the world while my son and I are drowning in debt – isn’t she supposed to help us? I was shocked by her response 

My mom is retired. She worked for many years as an accountant, was always sensible, frugal, and saved every single penny. While others spent on restaurants, trendy clothes, or home renovations, she chose a modest lifestyle and saved… “for old age.”

But now that “old age” looks nothing like I expected. Mom is traveling, sunbathing on beaches, sailing the Mediterranean on yachts, trying exotic dishes, and sending me photos where she looks happy – wearing stylish sunglasses, holding a cocktail, and smiling broadly.

And I – her only daughter – am drowning in debt. My husband left, I’m raising the child on my own, and I’m barely managing to pay rent, loans, and even groceries.

And you know what I don’t understand? Why doesn’t my mom, who saved a good amount over her lifetime, help me? Why does she think I should handle everything on my own? Isn’t it a parent’s duty to help their child, no matter how old they are?

Recently, I couldn’t take it anymore. I called her – in the background I heard waves and laughter. She was on some Greek island. I asked:

— Mom, you know how hard it is for me… Why don’t you want to help?

— I love you. But if I spend my last years saving others again – who will save me? You’re an adult. And I’m finally living for myself. Figure it out on your own.

I stood there speechless. I didn’t know what to say. Was it selfishness… or wisdom?

On one hand, I felt betrayed. I’m her daughter. I was always there when she was struggling. I helped her when she was in the hospital.

I gave up my own wants for her sake. And now, when I’m struggling, she chooses beaches and sunrises on distant shores.

But on the other hand… she really did live her whole life for others. For me, for her job, for the family. She kept putting herself off, again and again. Maybe now, she finally decided – to live?

What do you think? Was my mom right? Or does parental responsibility not end with retirement?